According to recent statistics, it is
extremely likely that you or someone you know has experienced
some sort of relationship violence. Sometimes it is hard to
make the distinction between "relationship ups and downs"
and relationship abuse, especially when there is no physical
Emotional abuse and physical
abuse are equally as serious. Perhaps your partner seems so
mild-mannered to others that you feel no one would ever believe
that he or she could be abusive. He or she may only mistreat
you so you feel that there is something wrong with you. Or
maybe your relationship is a secret to others and you are
afraid that asking for help or sharing your story might put
you in the position of being ridiculed.
These are normal feelings for people caught
in the cycle of an abusive relationship. They are myths.
There are people that you can go to in
full confidentiality that will believe you and help you understand
that the abuse is not your fault and that nobody deserves
to be treated in a violent and/or controlling way.
Take Action if someone you know is being
If you feel that you are not in danger,
talk to the person about his or her use of violence, and make
sure that the person understands that it is both wrong and
illegal. If the person is ready to make a change, help him
or her to get help.
If you are hurting someone else, have
the courage to get help!
No matter what the other person does
to provoke you; no matter how justified you feel, no matter
what your friends do, it is never ok to harm someone else.
Remember that violence against another person, even your dating
partner, is against the law and can land you in jail.