Violence is a Cycle: You Can Break
the Cycle of Violence - Here are some ways.
- Think first of your physical safety.
Get away from the violent person as quickly as you can.
- There are legal actions, such as restraining
orders that require a person to stay away from you and stop
abusing you if you fear for your safety. The police are
there to help protect you too. If you have any questions
about restraining orders or other protective measures you
can call a crisis center or the police and they can assist
you with the process.
- Reach out for help. Contact family members,
friends, police, counselors, or a crisis center - whomever
you feel comfortable talking to about your situation.
- Something to keep in mind if you are
reporting abuse to an adult and you are under the age of
18, then that adult is required by law to report the abuse
to the Division of Children, Youth and Family. DCYF, as
this agency is commonly called, is there to help you and
protect you and all other children and young adults from
abuse. If you wish to talk with someone from a crisis center
or some other location where you can remain anonymous, you
always have that option and your situation will not be reported.
- Remember that you cannot change another
person's violent behavior. Giving in to demands, trying
to please, pacifying and giving one more chance do not have
a lasting effect.
- People abuse because they can. In order
for someone to eliminate the behavior, they have to first
admit what they are doing is wrong and then take action
towards changing their behavior. No one but the abusive
person can make these changes.
- Remember violence does not just go away.
Once started, it usually keeps happening and gets worse.
It becomes a cycle of abuse, but you can break the cycle
by refusing to become a victim.
- Realize that no one deserves to be
abused. It shouldn't happen, it doesn't have to happen and
it shouldn't be tolerated.
Love doesn't have to hurt.